Do Love Letters Work?

Have you ever received a love letter from your girlfriend ... or boyfriend?

How did it make you feel?

For me, it was one of the most wonderful things to happen. I looked at it this way. If my girlfriend took the time to actually sit down and write me amazing words that made me feel incredible, she must really care ... a lot.

Often times in relationships we do not communicate to your partner things we would like to say. Saying the right words at times is difficult.

But if you could sit down and write a love letter to your girlfriend/boyfriend or ex, it could have a huge impact on your relationship.

One key to this technique is timing. A love letter has to be sent at the right time. I would not suggest sending a love letter when you or they have strong feelings of "un-love" for you. You need to do it when the guard is not up and they are receptive to reading some magical words.

Need some help writing a love letter, finding the right words that could do magic for your relationship? Try this resource Love Letters

Said "I Was Easy To Tame"

Are you tame?

Some people feel they have to train their partner. Whip them into shape so to speak.

Do you feel you have been "trained"?

It could be a sure sign that your relationship is in deep trouble.

What I mean by that is this. Some conflict is needed in a relationship. It takes two people and every one is different. You need to be different.

Take having a conversation as an example. If you totally agreed with everything said, it would certainly be a boring conversation. It would be completely one sided. You would not add any value to the conversation.

Same with relationships. You need not be tame. Why? It keeps the spice alive. It keeps the chase alive. It keeps the journey going.

What happens at the end of a journey? It is the end. It is over. So keep the journey alive and be hard to tame. You do not have to be difficult and argue. Just let them know that no one is going to master you. You are hard to tame.

I remember when I was dating. I was dating a stunning blonde. She did everything for me. She was easy to tame. What happened. I became bored. I moved on. It was not until I saw her in a bar having a great time without me that I "wanted her" again.

The moral ... keep the fire alive by being wild and hard to get.

Do You Have The Power?

Do you know that he/she that has the power in a breakup situation, will be the one whom the other comes crawling back too?

If you are in a breakup situation, one person will be the all powerful the other the crawler (or beggar).

Who do you want to be?

If you said the the "All Powerful" then try the following:

1. Change your mindset and decide you are the Powerful one.
2. As the powerful one, you are picky. In fact, you are hard to get. You do not chase. You are chased. If you still talk on the phone, stop. If you phone rings - don't answer it. If you email or text - stop. Do not respond. You refuse to communication for the time being.
   
3. Only return any communication if at least one day has gone by. If they phoned and left you a message, return to call in a couple of days. Make them wait. Same with email or text. Make them wait. All Powerful ones are too busy to instantly call back or respond.
   
4. Do something. All powerful ones - get out and have fun with friends and family and they do not sit around watching tv stewing over their ex. Get out and take your mind off of your relationship.
5. Be happy. If you are feeling sad, be happy anyway. Fake it till you truly feel happy. Smile. Smile for 2 minutes straight till you feel different. Till you feel happy. It works. Try it.

To be the Power you need to change your mindset and get the power ... if you want to be the benefactor in who does the crawling that is.

The Worse Thing You Can Do To Get Your Ex Back

The worse thing to do to get your ex back ... is to chase them.

The problem is you are not thinking straight. You want her/him back. You thoughts are driving you insane and everything you do blows up in your face.

You need to take a breath. Relax. You need some clear thinking.

Firstly, if you recently broke up, is you need some space and some time.

So, stop calling, emailing, texting or whatever you are doing. Breakoff communications completely.

Do not answer the phone. Let them leave a message. Do not return the call.

What are we doing? Put yourself in their shoes for one second. Why do they not answer the phone? Why are they not returning my phone calls? Why are they not returning my emails or texts?

You are now in their head and they are starting to think differently of you. What could they be thinking? Well, they could be starting to think all kinds of things. You probably are. But now you are using some mind games to give you the upper hand.

He or she who has the power ... the other comes crawling back to.